nordanney
2020-06-17 17:32:11
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It was only part of my quotes. I also wrote that I would not do something like that.From my point of view, that's where the problems already begin.
It was only part of my quotes. I also wrote that I would not do something like that.From my point of view, that's where the problems already begin.
If your father-in-law has the money for the demolition, he could give this money to his son as an advance inheritance, you add some of your own equity and buy another plot of land.The demolition costs would be borne by the father-in-law (had a brief preliminary discussion with a prefab house company that had a similar case and the demolition there cost €30,000 with "Connections").
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No, see post #40:From my point of view, this is already where the problems begin.
To my knowledge (if I may quote Schabowski once again), "to all" also means PinkiponkFor your information, we have buried the topic [...]
Such a life can sometimes be pretty long, and you can only roughly think through the known scenarios. This has nothing to do with negative thinking but rather with equal conditions. I had this situation in the house with my parents and we always liked it that way. Still, it definitely brings issues to the table that you otherwise would never have. It also has to do with the often somewhat sensitive topic that the son remains the son and can therefore more often get into loyalty conflicts.....oh dear. If you BOTH!!!!! can clearly separate that from each other and always go your own way 100%, then maybe yes. At 1% uncertainty, immediately no. The son at home always remains the child/the son........even if he is 60 years old or more.: true... I have doubts, I think that's also why I'm asking here again, to reassure myself...
Sometimes I wonder if I'm seeing it too narrowly.
My partner would really like to do it, but by now I am really very averse to it.
For us, there is still the option to buy property. The question is, if you are not married, is it better if one person buys it?
You can return it to the municipality within three years.
That’s how it is.... and you say that as an "affected" son with parents who apparently handle it thoughtfully. I believe that this can bring problems into the house, and yet you can still be close and support each other. Thinking about separation, it would be complete chaos anyway; then it’s also clear who leaves the house. I always like closeness but always with the distance I have chosen myself.As someone who built next to their parents: We had the opportunity to get a plot of land from my parents in a good location. With land prices of €270/m², it was relatively clear to me quite quickly, as long as a few basic principles like privacy could be realized. My wife was initially skeptical, precisely because of the proximity. Financially, however, it was so significant that we decided in favor of it. My wife is also listed in the land register and the financing. We carried out the whole thing with an architect and currently cannot report anything negative. We are also lucky that my parents are very reserved, as they themselves went through this with my grandmother and had rather bad experiences. They therefore want to do it better. After 2.5 years in the house, it has settled in such a way that we are very satisfied. However, I would not advise you to do this, as it depends on too many details, depending on the plot and especially the relationship between you and your parents/in-laws. With your land prices, even for me as a son, the decision would not have been so clear. Ultimately, you have to consider it yourself; however, I would neither advise against it nor recommend it.