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2019-04-02 18:29:21
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You often don’t choose your fate... as for pests. I’m happy that my new neighbor got a little belly over winter and is having her second one.
I decided to have my own house childless at 30. Built again at 45. According to father’s genes, I could still enjoy the garden healthy at 80 (more or less and crystal ball).
That would be 50 years of happiness in my own home with a garden – and without children. Should I have stayed in an apartment?
That is a good attitude!!!!
An acquaintance built new and the neighbors sold their house because he had children; he didn’t even have the chance to imagine otherwise... and I find that just sick, to see children as a “pest,” even if there is some humor involved.
It’s not like tenants have heaps of extra cash compared to homeowners.
Especially nowadays.
Having children doesn’t protect against loneliness either. My husband’s grandmother – he hadn’t been there for 14 years – recently died lonely in a nursing home. None of her children wanted her in their own home.
I last saw my family in 2012; I won’t count the father now, as he doesn’t belong to the family. By the way, father has 5 children, but none want to see him anymore; he will probably die lonely too.
That there is conflict or indifference in families happens more often than you think.
Old people in nursing homes often don’t see their children for months (my mother once worked there and reports this).
Yes, you can’t take your house to the grave, I don’t want to leave it to anyone either. Then you just have to sell it in time and spend the money accordingly. That’s how we will do it anyway.
My family line ends with me, and I find that absolutely OK. At least I can say that no child had to suffer because of me.
Having a family doesn’t always mean that everyone gets along well, when things go badly, everyone thinks the other is to blame instead of looking at themselves; it’s a vicious circle, just like a relationship between a man and a woman, anyone can start one, keeping it intact is the art!!!!!!!!!!