Your opinion requested / unmarried financing

  • Erstellt am 2019-10-04 07:08:38

Altai

2019-10-07 10:12:23
  • #1
I was once in the position of your girlfriend, only that the man already brought the house with him. We built and renovated together, the land register and loan were only in his name. And we were not married and did not arrange anything. I sometimes paid rent, worked part-time or not at all because of the children (parental leave with parental allowance, briefly also without any income). So classic behind-the-scenes support. After the separation, I was left with nothing at all, although surely my commitment also made it possible for him to pay off his house. Not to mention that I kept the house and garden in good shape...

So I really think it's good that you want to make an arrangement that enables her to have a share. I wish you all the best so that it never comes to that. And of course it is important to settle things now, because when the case arises, reason often no longer applies...

If you marry after you have bought the property and the house is standing, she participates, as far as I know, "only" in any increase in the value of the property. But at least... in my case, that would have been quite some tens of thousands of euros, which I could have used very well... I would see that as the minimum, even without a marriage certificate.

The maximum would be dividing the respective house value minus the equity you contributed alone and the liabilities equally between both. (Example: House 700k€, equity 150k€, loan 350k€ - so she receives (700-150-350)/2=100k€). Then you could actually get married too. What are the full-time income ratios? Maybe you want to weight the distribution here as well - e.g., if you earn twice as much, then division 2/3 to 1/3. I would also find that fair, as it disregards the child-related income reduction of the woman but still takes the different incomes into account.
 

HilfeHilfe

2019-10-08 04:39:38
  • #2
My words! Men always put it positively: dear woman, you have no debts blah blah
 

hampshire

2019-10-08 08:40:45
  • #3
Build and finance the house yourself and be the sole owner in the land register. Claims of the partner can be secured testamentarily. Mutual protection with rights and obligations is regulated in our society through the registry office. Those who don't like that must find their own arrangements. Simply sharing everything seems a bit naive.

When it comes to a possible later separation, both sides need to be considered in terms of protection. Besides the unfortunate situation of , there is also the variant where the partner who paid for the house suddenly has to leave it because they cannot buy out their ex-partner. I have repeatedly observed that separations can become "dirty" when one party tries to compensate for the suffered injury through financial means and/or contact with the children.

Very freely after Roth:
A person behaves as if transformed
when treated inhumanly.
 

Maria16

2019-10-08 09:08:05
  • #4


If the reason behind it is that the ex-partner enabled the payment of a certain installment amount through their work, then honestly I wouldn’t know why I should have greater sympathy. Without the ex, such a house would never have been possible...
 

haydee

2019-10-08 09:42:15
  • #5
The wealth of many a man would look different if he only worked 75% and took his share of raising the [gemeinsammen Kindern].
 

SlippySken

2019-10-08 10:40:36
  • #6
I am currently having a similar problem and am not really sure to what extent one has to take care of it. We have a property in prospect and currently everything should be under both of our names. Right now we do it so that each of us puts the same amount into a joint account, from which we pay rent and other living expenses.

At the moment I couldn't manage the house alone, so we plan with both incomes. Later, when there are children, she does want to continue working, if only so she doesn't get cabin fever. I contribute more equity to the land purchase and house construction than she does. To what extent is gift tax relevant?

Normally, I imagine a separation like this: It is looked at fairly who contributed what and then proportionally handled. At least this has always been the case for me in previous separations (e.g., when dissolving a household if you lived together).
 

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