How to proceed with a will? Please share experiences and tips!

  • Erstellt am 2025-04-11 10:22:53

Arauki11

2025-04-13 07:40:12
  • #1
Things change and people especially so, something that many participants still have to learn.
Elsewhere, such as in construction or in one's own life, it is insisted that everything is always contractually regulated in detail and watertight; when parents do this for their own lives, they suddenly are considered heartless towards their children, who themselves have long had all sorts of things in their lives contractually regulated.
A look at statistics or simply looking with open eyes beyond one’s own nose would quickly make it clear that it is not always only the others where something goes wrong with inheritance or where it gets loud and can even become downright mean.
To me, this feels like the topic of pedophilia, where it is always the others and one is naturally always the good one, even though it is actually much more widespread in one’s own family. With a bit more life experience, one can also learn here that it often comes from the church, but equally from one’s own family and not to forget, from oneself! One should not always prematurely raise oneself as the only good one on the topic of inheritance; each of us can sometimes be a jerk in life and also favor oneself a bit, which is completely human, and an open look in the mirror can quickly help.
I always smile when someone wants to set themselves apart from this topic per se because they invented morality. In (my) such a will regarding retirement provision, it is neither about the current feelings of the children nor about any later benefits, but solely and primarily about securing one’s own old age as best as possible and granting the survivor maximum security.
It is strange that one always thinks and speaks straightforwardly about one’s own contracts but does not want to allow this to one’s own parents and would suddenly be offended; I find that childish and intrusive, besides being completely out of touch with everyday life. A look at the increasing number of family conflicts as well as the waiting rooms of such lawyers could quickly help here.
Precisely because one does not dream or always think the others are the bad ones, one should arrange one’s own matters, strictly following the motto: "If everyone takes care of themselves, then everyone is taken care of," and the author of this saying did not mean greed or ruthlessness but the assumption of personal responsibility.
 

Grundaus

2025-04-14 12:51:04
  • #2

Embezzlement of a will is a criminal offense and can result in up to 5 years in prison. Furthermore, it is doubtful whether it is still valid if someone enforces it years after the inheritance event.
 

Grundaus

2025-04-14 12:57:48
  • #3
In my opinion, a Berliner Testament has only disadvantages in today's time, both for the surviving spouse and the children. If the property belongs to both and there are 2 children, one child inherits only 12.5% at the first death without a will. That could probably be paid out, either as a lump sum or as monthly rent. The relationship must already be severely damaged for someone to request a forced sale.
 

ypg

2025-04-14 13:10:09
  • #4
That varies from case to case. Especially today, there are family constellations with “only” in-laws, ex-spouses, half-siblings, etc., including an individual ownership arrangement that differs from the reconciliatory family unit of father, mother, child.
 

Tolentino

2025-04-14 13:14:18
  • #5
I can only recommend clarifying this preferably while still alive through a gift or inheritance contract. Berliner Testament is not so simple, especially in patchwork families. If the biological parent dies first and then everything initially goes to the stepparent, the biological children of the first parent do not inherit anymore, since they no longer have a kinship relationship with the surviving parent. I just read that regarding exemptions, they are treated equally.
 

nordanney

2025-04-14 14:37:15
  • #6

Who cares if the whole family is fine with everything. Such a will is for just in case or to have security when it is needed.
 
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