Huh? At the beginning you still wrote about Neugraben? But okay, then actually first consider what you want. Basically, you can also just stay exactly where you are. That might even be cheaper?
*Not
anymore..
Yes, we have looked at the areas and were not very satisfied.
Our problem is that we have both lived in a total of 10 cities. And since we have been together, we have already had 4 moves and 3 cities behind us. Always because of studies/job. We are in the volcanic Eifel, which is scenic but absolutely inconvenient for everything else. The closest family members of hers live in Witten, Solingen, Wuppertal, but they are all unhappy with their places of residence as well. My family lives in Hamburg, together with my close friends. We have close friends, but no everyday friends.
I want to live somewhere with reasonable public transport. Say what you will about the HVV, I have hardly experienced better and cheaper public transport in Germany. I want to get rid of the second car and later be able to bring my children alone by bike or bus/train to their hobbies. I find new housing developments charming because more or less everyone moves there 'new'. In old single-family house settlements, everything is already set and it is hard to make connections.
And I want to live somewhere again where there is more cultural offerings.
We simply have no idea where we can find all that. Plus my wife is not a city person. So somewhere on the edge, but quiet, well connected, and not too settled. Oh, yes and affordable please.
We will have to print out a big map again.