You’re not going to tell me that the old folks in your family are fighting over paying all the bills, are you?
Ours have to be forced to pay for weekend trips and in return are surprisingly forced to attend an overpriced thank-you dinner. So, exactly the opposite.
To the OP: Is your neighbor aware of your eldest’s hearing impairment? You can point out special circumstances here.
It’s nice of you to still think about noise protection – if the relationship isn’t already strained – I would invite the neighbor for a coffee and say that you want to take on the work and costs to protect him(!), so a contribution would be very nice. What else could he say except "no"?
Just because some advisors here know an excess of strange people doesn’t mean your neighbor necessarily belongs to them.
( Doesn’t he have a hearing aid that he can turn down? )
Unfortunately, I fear that the effectiveness of such measures is overrated if an optically acceptable building height is chosen.