Evolith
2017-03-16 11:48:35
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In the past (just a few years ago) it was normal "in the West" for children to start kindergarten at about 3 years old. Thirty years ago, that was still affordable.
My father was a salaried gas station attendant and my mother was a housewife for 30 years, yet every year there was a 2-week ski vacation in a hotel and a 2-week summer/autumn vacation in a holiday apartment.
Financial times have changed, forcing many people to act differently.
And when it comes to sense or nonsense in child-rearing, we could probably fill an entire forum just with that.
I find 10 months just as extreme as 4 years. Why not 2-3 years… that’s just wonderful. My wife has been at home for almost 4 years now and no, we actually can’t afford it, we want to afford it for both children.
You already noticed it yourself, often you simply can’t afford it anymore. For us, even 10 months means a certain period of saving, since I am the main earner.
When I ask the daycare workers, they all agree that one-year-old children adjust easiest during the settling-in period. The older they get, the more difficult it becomes (speaking very generally).
Our son probably silently made three crosses when he was finally allowed to go to daycare. He desperately needed the intense and long contact with other children. We were just boring him.
Ultimately, much also depends on the child. My little one already had no problem crawling away out of my sight at 6 months and at 10 months he simply followed strange dogs. Mama? Who’s that?!
The little girl (2 years old) of a friend, by contrast, still cannot properly integrate into daycare because she clings totally to her mom.
But well. Regarding the case of the OP, it would probably mean that a longer parental leave just isn’t possible. Or the plan for the house will be postponed until after the children’s round.