There is a land use plan that designates it as residential building land, but no development plan yet.
A land use plan is superior but not overriding. It does not issue an order to draw up a development plan; that is not within its competence. The "residential building land" in the land use plan is, in this sense, only the
declaration of intent for a (medium-term) development goal, but not a
legal basis. Development plans have areas of validity, and their boundaries are strict: what lies beyond is beyond — no matter how close you could spit to it. The land use plan does not even obligate the actual development of the perspectively intended use within a hundred-year period. This
supposed zoning therefore does NOT transform the outer area (§35) into an unplanned inner area (§34). From this follows for the question
1. Can I request several variants in the preliminary inquiry (e.g., building a city villa and, if this is not possible, building a house that matches the neighboring buildings)?
that it will be completely fruitless and you will only be granted the permission to build
nothing there. Similarities with neighboring buildings are absolutely useless in this context. At best, you can try to acquire a farm or at least a Easter bunny breeding operation to be privileged for building in the outer area (and then apply to place a subordinate residential building next to this operation).
There is no such thing as almost pregnant, and there is no such thing as almost building land.
2. Is a program like Architekt 3D suitable for creating the floor plan/building drawing for the preliminary inquiry itself?
You can submit building preliminary inquiries in an analog form, gladly illustrated with a set square. But they only make sense where there is — not at the day of never ever, but already in the present legally bindingly — building land. Elsewhere not. No matter how close a building area is, there is no administrative law expectation for building land. YET not is still NOT. You can therefore give up all hopes concerning the relevant plot of land: before considering including outer area, unplanned inner area will first be planned (and already planned inner area will be redensified). The next candidates are at best sometimes by chance areas adjacent to validity areas of legally binding development plans. Most likely you will find such where existing development plans bear a Roman numeral at the end of their name: where "II" has streets lined only on one side with building plots (or streets ending in nowhere), "III" will soon follow — but only if "II" is already 75% built, the population numbers are generally trending upward AND there are no areas in the same district of the municipality suitable for redensification. The plot you described will in thirty years still lie as untouched as now. Whether city villas will still be considered nice then, only the gods know. What I am relatively sure of, however, is that they will no longer be anthracite colored then ;-)