Strange. Apparently, you have built too much. ;)
Third house by now ;), But the average with a 20x20m plot and a 10x10m house, which stands roughly in the middle (due to required distances) and still leaves space for a front garden, would not get a single tree with a 10m planting distance. Even with 25x25m it doesn't work, because you have to keep distances to the boundary (neighborhood regulations) - in NRW at least 4m for fast-growing trees (otherwise 2m). I always make it dependent on the size and function of the tree or its root system.
Ever dug up a fully grown tree including roots?
No oak, but cherry laurel up to 40 years old, yews, among others. The roots had all grown in a manageable range. Never more than 1-1.5m away from the trunk.
Maybe I am just too weak
There are good professional tools for that :cool: