Initial questions about the topic of house construction

Dear forum members,

I have a few initial questions about building a house...

About us, we are female 24 years old and male 26 years old, unmarried and childless. We currently live in a rental apartment (approx. 100 sqm, 560€ warm rent). My boyfriend is still in training but will earn about 2200€ net from March 2018. As for me, I have been trained for 6 years and am in a permanent employment. I earn about 1600€ per month.

We want to convert a barn on my father-in-law's property into a residential house... but we do not plan to get married.

I also do not want to pay 'rent' to my boyfriend, but rather contribute to the loan repayments when the time comes. How can something like that be best arranged?

I would like to know how I can best protect myself contractually in case of a separation? Marriage is not planned, at least for now.

I would also like to mention that my boyfriend's father is a trained bricklayer and would pay for the shell construction. A lot could be done on the house by ourselves.

Thank you very much :)

What speaks against simply paying half of the loan interest and the consumption costs including a small maintenance reserve? Exactly everything, but no repayment. Then there is no discussion in case of separation. You just pay for what you use/cause. It's not that little after all...

Thank you for the response. But I think that I will just feel like a 'guest' the whole time... I am somehow afraid that it will just be said 'E. is building'... That I will not be mentioned anywhere at all. Is there a possibility that I can be entered in the land register? The house would, as mentioned, be on my parents-in-law's property.

Is it best to do something like this through a notary?

Hello,
First of all, I would check whether it is even allowed to convert the barn into a residential house or to demolish it and build anew.
The best place to inquire about this is at the building authority. It doesn’t cost anything to ask, but it might save a lot of brainstorming if you’re not allowed to do it.

Otherwise: a dream, for 100sqm only about 600€ rent, and that’s with utilities included. You will never live that cheaply again ;)

Is there a possibility that I get registered in the land register?

Hehe, of course you can do that... ;-)

But there will surely be a lot written about it, so I'll leave it at that for now.

About my idea: Whether guest or not - €600 from €1600 income would be enough for me anyway and I wouldn’t push for more.

(€150 interest, €150 "warm", €150 reserves are €450 per month. Then a few pieces of furniture, fridge or the like, and you are at €600 bucks)

Is something like this best done through a notary?

If "something like this" means the registration in the land register, then that can only be done through a notary.