Hi compost heap,
The 300k for a 175 sqm house without a basement can be possible if you don’t go overboard with the standard. But then you will be missing any landscaping, garage, terrace, etc., kitchen and parquet will presumably also be missing.
The 20k for demolition might also be correct, but only if you don’t encounter nasty surprises like asbestos, old bombs/explosive devices (that can certainly happen to you in Berlin), etc.
Regarding the installment: you now have about 4.6k€, with parental allowance that becomes about 3.5k€. You write "partner," so you might not be married. Then it can happen that you still have to pay 150 € health insurance during parental leave (that was the case for me). That puts you at about 3.3k€. I find 1.7k as a combination of installment and additional costs already quite tight.
Some reserve for a broken washing machine or a broken car is also needed.
Best regards,
Andreas