xMisterDx
2023-10-19 12:27:13
- #1
Some people prefer this, some that. I think nobody needs to know how I design the inside of my house, so my building application doesn't need to be public either.
That doesn't help in this case anyway. If someone is angry because they can't use the property as a garden for free, they'll also be angry if they find out about it through a transparent building application.
You can try to talk to each other, but if that doesn't work, then that's just how it is. Legally, the neighbor hardly has any leverage anyway.
Showing up at the neighbors' with a clipboard might work... but it might not. We also have a neighbor here whose first contact consisted of introducing himself and then telling us that he wanted to build a fence soon and would get in touch with us shortly regarding cost-sharing. The only thing missing was the clipboard with the respective agreement he wanted signed on the spot...
In the meantime, he has no money left, so the dispute hasn't escalated for now. I want a hedge, not a fence; he can forget about the cost-sharing.
Humans are creatures of habit and are generally rather skeptical of strangers. That was once crucial for survival; if a foreign tribe came near one’s own cave, that was very rarely good news for the cave clan.
What’s wrong with having a chat with the neighbor or neighbors? Just normally, in a calm tone, and bring up what you've heard from third parties?
You’re the new ones; you have to take action. That’s how it is everywhere when you’re new.
That doesn't help in this case anyway. If someone is angry because they can't use the property as a garden for free, they'll also be angry if they find out about it through a transparent building application.
You can try to talk to each other, but if that doesn't work, then that's just how it is. Legally, the neighbor hardly has any leverage anyway.
Showing up at the neighbors' with a clipboard might work... but it might not. We also have a neighbor here whose first contact consisted of introducing himself and then telling us that he wanted to build a fence soon and would get in touch with us shortly regarding cost-sharing. The only thing missing was the clipboard with the respective agreement he wanted signed on the spot...
In the meantime, he has no money left, so the dispute hasn't escalated for now. I want a hedge, not a fence; he can forget about the cost-sharing.
Humans are creatures of habit and are generally rather skeptical of strangers. That was once crucial for survival; if a foreign tribe came near one’s own cave, that was very rarely good news for the cave clan.
What’s wrong with having a chat with the neighbor or neighbors? Just normally, in a calm tone, and bring up what you've heard from third parties?
You’re the new ones; you have to take action. That’s how it is everywhere when you’re new.