Well, it doesn't seem to be any better with me than with you. At least it doesn't seem like you have much to do with cross-references either. After all, you're not really into "children".
But the thing is, nobody here (myself included) wants anything bad for you. At worst, someone here just wants nothing from you. But that's no reason to get personal right away. You seem to be a kind of person who has their own, special, not necessarily generally accepted way about them.
Either the majority or you yourself have to know how to deal with that. Some can, some can't.
The fact is, following your accounts, the other person made a mistake. According to your version, no lawbook is needed for that. Even the last farmer* (* insert profession of your choice) should be clear that he may not spray someone else's land. You have to find out together what caused it. You don't need to know any laws for that either. You notice pretty quickly whether this conversation brings anything. If not, this forum won't be able to help you anymore anyway.
Therefore, I generally recommend the appeal for moderation to you. Here and elsewhere.